I have a chance to move from N.C. to Lexington, Ky. It is a lateral transfer but the move is paid for by Uncle Sam (that is a big relief). My wife does not want to move because we have kids in high school.

My reason for moving is two fold. I like change. I enjoy change and moving is something I don't mind doing. Plus, we can get a house approximately 1/4 larger, nicer, on a larger lot for about 1/4 less! That is enough motivation for me.

Ok guys, what do I tell the wife? How do I sell this to her? Or, is it too hard on the kids to move then when they are early teenagers?


WJ

WJ,

I did my undergrad at UK and Lexington has always been my all time favorite town. Course being from NE KY and always going down there as a youngster for HS sports, horse racing at Keeneland & the Red Mile, Kentucky football and BASKETBALL games, the malls, great restaurants, the beautiful horse farms and rolling hills of Bluegrass!, yadda, yadda, yadda. Damn I miss it right now........ Travel wise you're not too far from Cincy, Columbus OH, Indianapolis, Nashville & Knoxville, or even Chicago. Significant national highways intersect at Lex with Rt75 running basically Fla to Mich, and Rt64 roughly St louis to DC.


As far as the family, I think it depends in part what kind & size of town, school system, interests they're used to.
Lex was a little over 250,000 the last time I bothered to look years ago. I would consider it a college town with a Southern influence - read Bible Belt ;-) Cincy is 75 miles straight north and I think you couldnt find 2 cities as close that so well represent the differences between north & south - more spread out vs. urban, yankee vs. southern drawl, ignorance vs. ... uh, nevermind


I would consider Lex's cost of living to be on the high side, traffic is Hell, airport is dinky,
and if any family member is a Puke or Tarbaby fan, you better get ready for some serious grief

I imagine we have some Saiga12 members from Lex and/or the immediate area that can chime in.

Cheers,
HarvKY


feel free to ask questions

Not that I'd know, having been home schooled, and not married or having kids, but I'd see what the mini WJs think of it. Maybe you can delay the move until Christmas break or something so at least it's not right in the middle of the semester.

Just a thought,
Acer

I doubt the high school kids will want to say bye bye to thier friends.

Then again, you are the bread winner.

I think you should ask yourself what it will do to your family, at least temporarily. Unfortunately, you got married and had kids, (im not saying that is a BAD thing) and it isnt your life to run yourself anymore. Life runs you now.

People sometimes, fear change. Sometimes, that change that seemed like hell, turns out to be heaven, and sometimes its the other way around. Its really when it seems like hell and it IS hell when you get there that you have to watch out for I guess.

Im sorry that I cant give any definitive answer, WJ.

well, actually I can, but you wont like it - "pack your shit honey and kids, we are moving" - not the loving husband and father type of thing to say, though.

I would say it depends. What grade are your kids in? How long have you lived here (ie how long have your kids had their friends here)? I was moved alot when I was growing up. Started school in CA, then to CO, MD and VA. I started 6th grade in VA and stayed in the same school until I graduated. It was a middle/high school. I wanted to graduate with my friends but I'd gone to school with them for quite some time. But if you haven't lived here that long, maybe it wouldn't be so hard on them. I'd just talk to them and explain all the advantages to moving. I will say though, we'll miss you here if you go.